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lizzy | 2002-12-28 14:25:44 |
| Subject: | love |
| Comment: | after reading your philosophy on love i was integed by the idea that you think love is a almost genetic purpose in life. I disagree love may be present in everyones life but it is by no means a scientific based problem. love must be felt like it was ment to by physically or emotionally it differs from each person. is it possible for a prostitute to be in love with the man that she has sex with every week? and what about the maternal view on this. what if she ahd a child out of one of theese faceless men. she proceeds to have the child looks it in the eyes but it is half empty the child is with out a father and further more a reminder of the mistaken road she choose. would you love this child this ill begotten mistake? i couldn't no matter how the child was to look at me with the most adoring eyes in utter dependence. life is ment to be lived with human company but i want to choose who my company is and this self invited guest is a tag along. i could not love a child that was inflicted on me.... it isnt in my nature or in the nature of many im sure.....my 'genes' tell a different story one that may or may not include the need for a child. wer make our destinies not nature. let us then live it with the use of our own devices and not throw ourselves to the wind |
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Natalie | 2003-05-13 05:37:00 |
| Subject: | love |
| Comment: | H'mm.......I've got a lot to say on this subject. Some of it is in Natalie's Bike Ride to Clarity;
http://www.ms.lt/en/natalie/index.html
and a lot of it is always simmering in my mind.
Top marks for your sincere aim to shed light on this murky theme and for thinking your way around it. But it needs an aproach that's different from mere cogitation.
OK, love and genes are linked but love has something that genes don't have: mystery, for lack of a better word.
It's impossible to understand love using merely intellectual tools. I know you'd probably say that we don't have any other tools but that's where we don't agree. There's lots of proof to the contrary.
Try an experiment: Don't write but *draw * about love but do it only when you're actually genuinely totally feeling it (for someone or something). And don't analyze the feeling.
See what happens. |
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Mike | 2003-09-07 01:27:40 |
| Subject: | Love. HAH!! |
| Comment: | Love is a chemical reaction! But if you believe it is otherwise, stay in your dillusion! It is just as real as my knowledge that you are having a chemical reaction! HAH!!!! |
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Clayton Carter | 2003-09-27 14:37:37 |
| Subject: | Loving you is easy bc you're beautiful |
| Comment: | Love is nothing but a name. But a rose by any other name would smell as sweet. Love is more like a social affliction than a genetic disposition. Or genetics are the road map, but the journey on that road - the signs, funny looking people in the other cars - that's what the trip is all about. I can love something like chocolate, because of the pleasurable taste, and the way my body feels after I eat it. Just like how I can love the way someone looks at me, or more accurately, the intention behind their eyes. Because my mind releases endorphines, and this describes to my body happiness. So my genetics determine the 'good' feeling but my social experience teaches my genetics to act at certain times. I learn to love it when someone kisses me from society. If it was the norm to rub elbows I would get a similar feeling of love. But the way we equivicate love to be this everlasting force is far from correct. When I am gone, so is all the love I had. |
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kendy | 2003-11-27 05:34:48 |
| Subject: | love is just a state of the mind |
| Comment: | it's all in the mind.... everything that is felt is controlled by our mind... we can control our feeling and our emotion towards someone if determined.
reality is... we love because we want to love. and so if dont want to. |
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Christopher | 2004-03-04 15:08:32 |
| Subject: | Love |
| Comment: | Many educated people believe that love can be discussed, can be defined, using words, can be cut up and put under a microscope for careful analytical review. This however is not the case. Love is a raw human feeling, like hate, and guilt, and the only way true raw feelings have ever come close to being recorded by human beings is through music and art. Words have been created by us, to have rules and laws, and thus, to have boundaries. Art and music don’t. |
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MadPole | 2004-04-25 11:39:27 |
| Subject: | Need of bigger picture? |
| Comment: | It is sometimes worth and beneficial to consider 'human love' just as a subset of much greater phenomena. Animals tenderly attending to their off-spring, bees tenderly attending to flowers, mountain stream tenderly and gently eroding the hardest of rocks – 'that is not Love!' I hear you crying 'those are just instincts and nature and physics!'. But if that is so – 'human love' is also nothing more than a mixture of feelings, emotions and instincts. I think Love is a driving force behind Evolution, its very engine, and that we humans fall into common trap of trying to claim Love as a characteristic specific only to our species. That is the reason why Love brings so much confusion, pain, suffering and anger into our lives – it is like taking a fish out of the water, claiming that it is ours, and then be surprised that it jumps violently, doesn't do what we expect it to do and slowly dies from suffocation. Love cannot be resolved or defined by logic but we still have a choice whether to see Love as something which is inside us and belongs to us, or something which is much greater and which we are only a part of. Human Love is selfish by nature and most people generally agree that selfish Love is not Love at all. |
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Nescirian | 2004-07-28 18:12:50 |
| Subject: | Love and Genes |
| Comment: | I may be a total fool for posting here without reading the initial article, but I gather from feedback it considers love at least partially a genetic phenomenon. Let me point out to you that Monozygotic twin studies have scientifically disproved this. Studies of seperated identical twins who show an amazing concordance in many aspects of their behaviour show none in terms of romantic love. If you seek a materialistic explanation of love therefore, I suggest you try something based on behaviourism. |
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Bowles, Mike | 2004-09-11 20:15:25 |
| Subject: | Incompatibility and loss |
| Comment: | All of the things that people believe in, such as love or loss. What could they mean. In the cosmo's people will obviously find, or choose these things to happen to them, yet, everytime we seem to feel the same bitterness, or happiness from it, why? Even if everytime it 'feels' like the same love, or it seems just as 'bad' as the same loss. People will hope that it will lead them to self happiness. It's a never ending loop that people will experience, it's why we can never be lead to 'true' self happiness. It's only a state of mind. |
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Kali | 2005-03-23 02:08:22 |
| Subject: | ah, love |
| Comment: | Love is a very complicated emotion. And it drives practically the whole world. I don't care who you are. If your mom suffered through a disease or something and died right before you got to the hospital, you'll cry. Because you LOVED her. I don't care if you told her a million times you hated her. You cried when she died you loved her. To me there are 3 kinds of love
1. Family love-You're glad to have them near you. Yet you don't think about them every free second of your life nor do you want to make love to them. Yea you call that f***ed up.
2. Friend love- You love them because you can talk to them, they're there for you, and you might even risk your life for them. But as many say 'You fall in love w/ your best friend.' Many say 'well my best friend is of the same sex.' Think opposite sex people. Or maybe I hang out with dense people.
3. LOVE- You'll fall in love with a boyfriend. You'd do anything for them. That love may be miniscule at first. 'Oh he's a wonderful guy.' Then it'll grow 'I wanna make him happy.' it'll grow bigger. 'I want to see him more. I want to wake up to see his face.' Then BaM! You realize you love the guy. You love him like it was all you can do to keep you alive! So...
1. You gotta tell him! If you don't you'll burst! So you run and jump into a room and 'HEY--' WOA! He's kissing some girl. Quite heatedly in fact, so you know that ain't a cousin. So you either confront him or leave the room. Heart smashed.
2. You pull him aside, you tell him ure feelings, he smiles that special smile, and he says he loves you too. Get married or something, knowing he's right beside you.
So in the end, Love can make or break you depends on how sensitive you are. |
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Raychel | 2005-03-27 00:17:15 |
| Subject: | What to say. |
| Comment: | What do you say - When you need to say 'I love you'
But you know your NOT 'in' love.
When the passion is burning so intensly that your voice desires to scream out - I love you! -
But you know your not in love with him.
What do you say when you love to smell - touch - taste; when you love the sound of his voice; when his touch sends you to the most insanely lovely place.
But you know in your heart, your not IN LOVE
What do you say - when you want to whisper 'i love you' to someone you deeply love being with. |
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Kali again | 2005-05-06 23:08:52 |
| Subject: | What to Say |
| Comment: | WOw. What TO say...Now I know its none of my business whatsoever but it sounds like ure in LUST w/ the guy. I mean I can understand if you like his ideas and personality but it seems like you just talked about the way we feels, tastes, smells, etc... So I call it lust. Lust can do some really freaky things. Really freaky things. It can make you stumble across the man of ure dreams. Or it can make you screw the man of ure dreams'...best friend. My advice: Keep the Lust in check. Could get ya in a few time bomb situations... |
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jeff | 2005-08-08 11:52:09 |
| Subject: | help |
| Comment: | i know your not a theapist and all but i have a question. I love my girlfriend so much and we were best friends for three years(her having a crush on me since we met)but since weve been going out its as if shes falling out of love with me its strange because she said she was in love with me before we went out but i didnt love her untill after we went out. it as i grew closer to her and she grew further away from me!! I respect your veiws very much and would like your opinon on this. |
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| From: |
Kali | 2005-11-15 17:54:37 |
| Subject: | Help |
| Comment: | Well, this seems to keep happening to a lot of people, I realized. I suppose it's because when you are not with someone, but just crushing, you have this perfect ideal of what they might be...maybe her idea was a little too great or something and she realizes that it won't happen. Course, I hardly know anything on the concept of love, so take my advice if you dare. ^.^ |
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Daphne | 2006-01-11 00:00:26 |
| Subject: | desire to be whole |
| Comment: | We are all Lost halves, each missing something in our lives. Love is that desire to find your other half and to be whole. |
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| From: |
wow | 2006-07-06 22:48:43 |
| Subject: | oh my |
| Comment: | you have way too much time on your hands. of course people are capable of love, for God loves us and has placed a need and capability to love within us. but love is a choice. love is so much more than an emotion. it is constantly putting someone else before yourself. it is only a choice. you have to daily decide that your wants are not as important as someone else's wants. |
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| From: |
monkey | 2006-09-27 11:45:56 |
| Subject: | love |
| Comment: | love is a desire to posess based on insecurety and jealousy. often confused with lust, which is a natural need to extend the gene line. |
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| From: |
emily | 2007-10-13 21:31:03 |
| Subject: | your philosophy on love |
| Comment: | This artical was painfully beautiful and it seemed to touch and inquire on some of the things that I've felt, and many others I know seem to feel everyday. I am very young, new to love. Having my heart broken by the man I promised myself I would never fall in love with-but still did anyway-still aches and rips me apart. Your philosophy has given me hope.
thank you |
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The unwilling philosopher | 2008-02-16 09:23:08 |
| Subject: | love |
| Comment: | Love is wat u make it. It will happen even if its a mistake. You cant change it it is as absolute as death if not more!! |
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| From: |
charlotte | 2008-09-22 20:24:31 |
| Subject: | well done! |
| Comment: | your philosophy, its great & interesting! |
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| From: |
ujjwal | 2009-07-12 12:25:35 |
| Subject: | about love.. |
| Comment: | A lone balloon pirouettes high into the smog. The exposed city shivers and shuffles amidst the hostile air. A suspension bridge spans into the gloom. A girl pants heavily as she stands precariously on the green steel ledge. Her stilettos clank on the metal. She clenches her fists as she stares down at the tarmac road that lies a dizzying distance below her feet. The police flash to the scene and cordon off the area. A kindly counsellor steps forward and opens a dialogue with the girl. A tense hour passes. Then another is woven into history as, with sacred patience, she mulls her dilemma. She crouches as if preparing to descend from her perch. No one can tell which way she will step. The girl marries. She loves her husband dearly. However his dalliance with drugs gradually hardens into dependence. A faithful lover, she subconsciously buries the pain and the fear.
Will the coveted love us?
Our first love did not last
Ideal love dwells in the future
Dead love haunts our past
But when we learn to love the now
Then love will find us anyhow |
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